Quotes About Being Me

Who Can Read Minds???

Anyone who is around 50 years old...(ouch!!!!) may possibly remember the "Tammy" movie...with Doris Day and Rock Hudson. In this movie Tammy is soooooo in love and at one point she sings this song that says, "I wish that I knew if he knew what I'm dreaming of"....and then it goes on to say...."Tammy's in LOVE." Well, that part of the line is not relevant to this post. lol Anyway, the point is, we really can't read another person's mind....but, we can be given "tools" that help us to "read" their personality. If we can figure out another's "personality", or "Behavioural Pattern", then we can almost begin to know what another person is thinking...and how he/she will react in various situations.

We call this technique: Using "Visible" Clues to help us identify what a person's dominate personality style is. Simply by observing how a person dresses: are they stylish, traditional, tailored, or casual. How do they interact with others? Are they the "Tell it all" type, or are they quiet and reserved, or maybe, they are the kind who "know it all" in every conversation, or maybe, they simply just observe and say nothing, but smile inwardly at all that is going on around them.

Whatever the personality one is, there is a "perferred" way of communicating. If you learn to communicate with a person on their "elevator" floor, you'll be amazed at how much more harmonious your relationships, whether personal or professional . So take the time to do a little research. Learn about your own Personality Communication Style and then learn to communicate with others according to their Communication Styles.

Understanding Your Loved Ones

Your fun loving, out-going girl:
Realize she needs lots of people around
Recognize she thrives on new, creative activities
Understand that she will seek affection and attention, regardless of the consequences
Laugh with her and enjoy life together

Your serious, deep thinking girl:
Appreciate her ability to analyze everything
Understand she flees noisy, chaotic situations
Provide her a place of her own
Recognize her need for order and neatness
Accept her desire to not discuss her feelings

Your natural born leader:
Realize she doesn't need 'babying'
Provide something she can control
Recognize she thrives on projects, not relationships
Appreciate her ability to organize and accomplish her goals
Help her learn tact and diplomacy

Your calm, quiet peacemaker:
Spell out details on her responsibilities
Allow her time to rest and relax
Realize that she flees conflict and stress
Help her find an area of interest where she can excel
Understand she shows happiness in a reserved manner

What changes are you willing to make to enhance your relationships? How can you adjust your approach to create connections that count? What expectations of others will you change? by: Ruth Crow (reprinted)

It was so much fun...plus an honor to get to spend with with Florence Littauer...THE MOTHER OF PERSONALITIES, in Fort Worth. This lady is truly a remarkable woman. One who is willing to share her knowledge and experience with the world, all because she cares and knows that learning about the Personalities makes such a difference in peoples' lives!!!!

I am involved in a Bible Study each Tuesday called "A Mother's Heart". It is targeted to mothers who are still in the "child-rearing" stages of their lives. Each week the mothers share their stories of triumphs...(potty training successes etc.) and tragedies (sibling rivilary etc.) More and more and more, I am convinced that in order to parent successfully, the child must be dealt with according to his distinctive personality. A one size fits all parenting style does not lead to successful, well-adjusted children. What makes one child "shout for joy" may cause another to "want to crawl under the carpet". So, I encourage you to STUDY your child...discover what motivates and what DEFLATES them...Feed their emotional garden with the proper food...(encouragement, recognition, fun, peaceful environment etc.) whatever fits them best...and watch your child GROW...as a result of what you SOW into their lives.

I had fun presenting "The Personalities" to a group of Administrative Assistants recently. I received a card through the mail expressing appreciation for the presentation. Along with the thank-you...was this quote: "I can't wait to apply the gift you gave us. My husband will be putty in my hands."
This comment was funny, but SO TRUE. Learning to communicate from the "listener's" perspective can change relationships...(for the better) almost instantly.

Perscription for Communication Success

l. Learn to identify individual
personality types by observing:

a. Visible Clues

(what you see)

b. Variable Clues
(what you observe)

2. Apply as Needed:
a. Valuable Clues (emotional needs)

3. Enjoy meaningingful communication!!!

My Sanguine self......with my Phlegmatic daughter and Choleric hubby!!!